There are so many sayings and platitudes these days that address the concept of worrying and not worrying. Australian poet and essayist Clive James has been quoted as saying, “Stop worrying; nobody gets out of this world alive.”
As funny as that sounds, it’s true. No one is going to circumvent the fixed points in life. Once you’ve hit the first fixed point at birth, you eventually hit the last fixed point at death.
Pythagorus wrote: “Concern should drive us into action and not into a depression. No man is free who cannot control himself.” In other words, worry enough to elicit a call to action within yourself but don’t worry so much that you are unable to move forward in life.
You see, worrying isn’t as bad as one might think. Yes, worrying means to feel uneasy or concerned about something … to feel or experience concern or anxiety, and to cause one’s self to feel anxious, distressed, or troubled. But it’s when the individual is out of balance with himself or herself that worry allows that individual to find solutions and resolutions that will set his or her world right again.
Now my grandfather used to say, “sometimes worry is just interest you pay on troubles you haven’t bought yet.” And you know, in some respects, he’s right. I’ve known people who worry themselves to pieces with “what if this” and “what if that” only to find out that the “IF” in question never happens. In fact, sometimes the “IF” in question was a long shot “IF” at best and not worth all the lost time invested in worrying about it.
And sometimes, people mistake “wondering” for “worrying.”
Recently I came across a piece of music by a Turkish Muslim rock musician from Istanbul. Mürsel Işık wrote the song in his early 20s and recently he’s been promoting it on his MySpace page. The song is entitled “Sakın Üzülme (Don’t you worry!)” which Mürsel says is the story of two strangers who live in the same city and who study at the same school. Even though they have never met, each of them has the sense that someone is “out there” waiting for the moment when they will meet. Over time, they find signs that the other exists, with notes they find that say, “Don’t be sad just because I am not here. Don’t be sad just because I am far away from you.”
I happen to be a romantic at heart and I happen to believe that in life, there are people who can sense that their one true love is somewhere out there, waiting to meet when everything is right for that meeting. In fact, I’ve met a handful of people who have told me such stories and in one case, there’s such a long history of this ‘sense’ that it cannot be denied.
Yes, there are people who write short stories and poems and songs about their beloved and for the most part, those stories and poems and songs are written just as the romance blossoms. But what do you make of stories and poems and songs written by two people who meet and the published stories and poems and songs over a span of several years clearly describes their beloved?
So do I believe in love at first sight? No. Do I believe in love upon recognition? Yes. The two aren’t the same. Love at first sight is oftentimes nothing more than chemistry at work whereas love upon recognition is the moment when what your heart and soul have longed to find is finally revealed.
With this, I leave you to listen to the music of Mürsel Işık ‘s “Sakın Üzülme(Don’t you worry!) .”